You are not honest , admit



Two best friends, very best friends who have been inseparable since childhood had hung for against the other did not have any secret.They knows all about each others. It was really good frinedship.

Their friendship flourished until the moment until they fell in love with the same girls.Since so many girls they are fell in love the same . It was so sad.

They tried to agree on who have a right on her.

  • If you want to be happy you must let me be my girlfriend
  • I can be happy only if she be my girlfriend
  • You do not want to I be happy it is obvious
  • No. You do not want to I be happy.

They were argue every day , every single day. The girl is gone, and they never were friends anymore, and they cut off all communications.Each of them thought he was right. And each of them was the right .

We are living in lies

We live a life, we spent our hole lives and we are not honest with ourself . Actualy we are rarely honest in our lives. We live in lack of knowledge and lack of honest.

Friend is told to another friend “If you want to I be happy “. But in the reallity this question is so unfear, and rudely because my happy is much important for me than yours.

It would be a lot more honest to each of them said: My happiness is the most important to me.

I am happy with you, because I feel good nad I feel nice. I can not be happy just because you are happy. It is not normal. I want to this girl be my girlfriend, and it is a much important to me, than to be your girlfriend.

We are not honest with ourselves, we are full of excuses for all our actions, because our cutlure our parents they educate us in the wrong way.

You must have heard a lot of times when someone says, I do not want to quit smoking because I like to smoke a cigarette while drinking coffee, when I resting after hard work. Deep inside , he or she want to quit smoking, but they have a problem with nicotin. They are addicted of nicotin. It is hard to say , I am addicted from anything. We think we are so perfect, be in the reality we are not. We are so average .But when we admit ourselfs some tings, then we stop to be avarege,mediocrities and rise into the higher levels .

Stop live in lies and please be honest


Just admit it


It is hard to admit anything, to anyone.Why ? Because we are people, and we thinking that we are unmistakable ,that we are perfect and we can not go wrong. But I will tell you are wrong, we are wrong sometimes. Every body make mistakes, every day, the hole life .This is life and it is great. Because of that we becomes better people, better man.

In life mistakes do not exist, exist only  lessons. And we , if we want to learn any lessons we must have opened mind. And we must to admit  our self, that we are not perfect.

Once lived a young man who was very unsatisfied with his life. He have everything that the society is considers that is enough for happiness, own house, a nice family, a good job even a dog.But he was still dissatisfied. It is pressed down, saying that it is impossible to be still dissatisfied when he has everything in his life.

He was smiling, he was excited, but deep down he was very worried about him selves. This is not the life he wanted to lead.This was the life that society considers he must lead.This thought gave him extra energy to talk with him self.

And he sad, Ok. Hi me. I am not ok and you know that already.I’m choking, I have no air, no space. I have nothing which makes me happy. I am not happy.

When he said that , for the first time after long long time he felt  happiness.He was in the beginning of the healing.

Next step was, to find what is exactly thing which make him unhappy, and to change that thing, to change everything in his life if it is necessary for happy.

 He did not like his job, he did not like his working hours, he did not like his salary, and he did not like his  life because of that. And  he began the most difficult process in the world. The process of change.
This is the only process which is available for us the hole life, and on the other hand the process which is so heavy.
He changed his profession, he changed his wages, live a different life, fuller life, and very hi is very happy, which is the most important thing in life.
All changes in life start with disaffection of  life. But first we must be honest with our self and admit that I am fat, I am too skin, I am not happy , I am…
If you want a change, be that change.
But first, Admit yourself !!!

Interview With Ben Aqiba

In my Alpha state, before my bad time I told my subconscious to ask me a few questions to which I will give answers on my blog. When I woke up I wrote down the questions. These are her subconscious questions and my conscience answers. I will called her in text below Alpha !

This is the interview of my subconscious with me !

Alpha: In what you believe ? This is good question :)… In knowledge. I believe in knowledge. But not in any kind of knowledge. I believe in the knowledge that enables us to develop. Knowledge about us, humans is definitely that kind of knowledge. Knowledge that helps us to understand who we are and what we are. I believe also that ignorance divides humanity. Because we  are born as an empty plate “TABULA RASA“, and our parents and our teachers print the information in it, in the beginning, and later  we ourselves. Can you imagine how world would be when all people would learn about themselves much more. These days they  bombing us from all with ads, with information which are useless for us.We need to filtered them, and to leave the space for real knowledge!

Alpha: Are you positive ? I’m trying to be. I am just human being, and I  run my own battles. But I know that the dominant thoughts in my head are positive. I always look at everything from a brighter side. Thoughts shape words<words shape actions<actions shape character<character shape destiny. I believe that everything will be ok in every situation. So, yeah, I am positive !

Alpha: What is your goal ? I have a lot of goals. My goal is to be happy always, because I believe that happiness is a journey not destination. Life is usually what happens to us while we are  chasing our goals. My goal is to be positive, to raise my kids on the best possible way, to be aware of themselves and their roles in the world, not to be a servant of the system or someone else’s,  to think with their heads. One of my goals is to create a community of positive people where we will learn from each other, and share positive energy.Positive energy is the key.

Alpha: Do you believe in love ? Of course I do . I feel love for everything I do. I am a product of love.Love between two people, love between two cells . We are born to share love. I  feel love for everything I do. When  I write post, when I reply on comment,when I ride a bike. I love my family, my life. I love when I am able to do the things in which I enjoy . My children are a product of love. I believe that most people are born out of love. The lifespan is very short to spend it on negative things. I really believe that the love is all we need.

Alpha: Why “You Can Do It” ? Just look at around us,and you will see  what all man did. Everything you see is born in one’s head first. Bridge, airplane, car, electricity etc. I could write by tomorrow. The biggest obstacles are those in our head. You can do it is a grenade that breaks these obstacles.When you believe that you can do it, you can do it. I  would return to the first question here. The knowledge is power !


Alpha: And one more question.Why you think that I am stupid ? (read first Your subconscious is stupid) . Because you are 🙂 You believe everything I tell you. That black is white, and that white is black.  You  don’t  have  opinion about  anything.  If  I  know how,I can  influence you when I want. Although I have to admit that you’re a great servant but a bad master, just like money ! Although maybe I was too rough, You are just naive 🙂

Thank you for reading my dear friends and don’t forget that You Can Do It !!!

Lovely Blog Award

I’m nominated   for  Lovely Blog Award , from great blogger Smitha. She have a really great blog, where she is writing about life, about traveling, about parenting. She is a great philanthropist and   I have to admit that I often leave my comments on her blog because she write wonderful posts.

Smitha, thank you so much for your nomination.

Continue with great work because in every post I can feel  your passion for writing ! Thank you


Like every award, this one is not exception in terms of rules, so :


  • Mention and thank the blogger who nominated you and link their blog.
  • Add the One Lovely Blog Award to your post.
  • Share seven facts about yourself.
  • Pass this on to as many people as you  (max 15).
  • Include this set of rules.
  • Inform your nominees.


This is always the hardest part, because I really don’t like to speak about myself !

  1. I don’t like to divide people ,on any ground, because I like to believe that we are all equal !
  2. I don’t believe in bad people, only in bad actions !
  3. I have not always thought on this way.I passed the bumpy road to this way of thinking !
  4. I do not like to say “I would never do this or that“, because life can lead you to unthinkable situations.I remember lecturing at a university from a reputable lawyer and he said “Every one of us is a murderer,depends on the circumstances in which you find yourself” . And this is true !Defending your life and the lives of your loved ones people you are ready for everything !
  5. I do not like to  condemn people, just their actions, if they are wrong according to my opinion!
  6. I do not believe in mistakes. I think there are only lessons which we learn from mistakes !
  7. I don’t like to speak about myself !


I want to take this opportunity to say THANK YOU to the my new friend Jay, because she wrote the post about me (you can check it in the link below), and made it clear to me that I’m definitely on the right track with my blog. This is a great award for me, and definitely great honor .Because of this, I  will nominate this time only her !


I’m Sorry

To err is humanly, to forgive is godlike !

Two best friends they grew up together.They shared good and bad in life. They went to the same school.They lived in the same  location on the same town.They spent their entire lives together. In life it happens once that you meet a person of the same energy like you. That was that friendships which should last forever.

When they grew up, and began to study they have agreed to come together in old  neighborhood.They arranged to meet at the old oak.It was a huge oak from their childhood  around which were built small shopping facilities.

One was waiting on one side and the other on the other side of oak.

They waited 15 minutes and they both went home angry.

They had never talked again.

Love, when it is sincere and deep, easily forgives and forgets.

But there is something stronger than love. It is proud.It is ego.

To say I’m sorry you have to conquer your ego.You must admit that you are wrong,that you are just a ordinary human being with all merits and demerits.In true story above, both friends were right and both were wrong.It was a misunderstanding.But in their minds they thought they were right.They failed to beat the ego and to ask his friend where have you been !?

Here is a little test for you.As in all my tests it require only sincerity .

  1. Do you think you are always right ?
  2. Do you think that you are right in most cases ?
  3. Is it hard for you to say sorry ?
  4. Does your ignorance  about some topic you defend with your contempt?

If the answer is YES on most questions, than you have a problem to say sorry !You should work on yourself  to make it get there. If I could choose the words that I must pronounce it would be Thank you and I am sorry.

Those words means that I am human.That I am conscious being. That I am great.

We all have bad days.We all have days  when we react excessively,when we say things that we do not think .This is normal. But after that, when you realize that you are wrong say I’m sorry. You will feel much better after that. That will build you as a human being,and after some time you will be free.


Defeat your ego.It is not your friend.You’ll be great only if you defeat your ego. You will be great only when you admit your mistakes.Can you imagine society where everybody are ready to say sorry and everybody are ready to say thank you .

Of course, another person should be ready to accept that.


You Can Do It !!!

To Do, Or Not To Do !?

The tired army, hungry, thirsty was walking home. And they  came upon a dark cave through which they had to pass. It was a passage through the mountain and the only road to home.

Frightened, they went through the mountain.They had no light but in the cave was a terrible darkness.Suddenly, they encountered on the great and big light and they hear the voice :” Who take this, it will regret,and who don’t take it it will regret ".

Some soldiers thought “If I will regret in any way, it is better to take it “, but some others thought “It is some kind of curse,and it is better to ignore it “.

And,that voice was right.

When they came out they saw that was a treasure.

So, those who took it, they regret because they did not taken more.

But those who did not take it, they regret because they did not taken even a little peace.

That is life my friends, eternal dilemma “ To do it or not. Hamlet’s dilemma “To be or not to be “”To go or not to go”, “To risk or not to risk” ,  “To take it or not”.

That is life. They say life is a battle .And he really is.But the biggest battle is in us,and with us.In life the  hardest job is to make decisions ,because they all have consequences, and you must be ready for them.

It is better to die on your feet than live on your kneesEmiliano Zapata

You must be brave to have a great life. It is not easy road. But courage is not the absence of fear.It is the victory over fear. As you can see from the story above, you can take it or not,in any way you will regret it. How many times you have found in similar situations. To take it or not.

I believe many, many times. And how many times you just knew it the right choice, but you did not take it, because of fear. Fear is our worst enemy.

Do you know which fear is the strongest one.The fear of change.

Opportunities in life comes and goes, but the bravest create them.

If you miss one chance do not despair, it will come another one. But please my dear friends, do not miss them all,please .Grab it, take it, say yes no matter what. Maybe you will failed, maybe you will be dissapointed but you will made it finally .

It is better to say to yourself at the end of your life “I gave my best, and I failed” then ” I missed my chance” .

But I am sure, that You Can Do It !!!

Are You A Slave ?

Blessed are those who have a free spirit,they will have a free life !

In one country at some time was ruled a very strict laws. People were limited in various ways.They had to wear certain clothes, certain shoes. To pray at certain times of the day,to work certain jobs, to have a certain hair.

Penalties for policy violations were very strict. Imprisonment, beatings, psychological harassment. People respected the rules because of fear.

One guy has decided to leave the country. He heard from his parents that there are countries that do not have such strict rules. And he did it. One night he ran away. He risked his life, but he did manage.

When he came in free land, he discovered that people have a free will to do what they want to do, to dress as they wish,to cut their hair as they wish.Nobody forced them to do anything.

But….they were not free …..

They were slaves of prejudice.

They were slaves of others opinions.

So my friends, you must ask yourself title question “Are you a slave ” ???

Freedom is in our mind.The real freedom is only in your mind. You are free if you have a free spirit.You are free if you have your own will.  We living in one very strange world. They bombard us with rules, with styles, with looks.And to make matters worse we accept these shackles.

Today is “cool” to have a breast implants, to  have a lips implants, to have a six pack abs, to injecting botoh in your body.And this is all ok with me. I don’t have any problem with that. I believe that people should do whatever makes them happy.

It is great to do all this stuff, but before you do, you must ask yourself for  whom are you doing that.If you are doing that because of you, it is cool, but if you are doing that because you want to someone say you are cool, it is wrong, and you are slave.

Remember, taste imposes to us !

World strives for perfection !

Only God is perfect !

But you must be aware that you are also great without that. You are already perfect,you are already the best.You are born to be free, and you should be free.

Stop worrying are you in trend, whether you dress according to the latest fashion, are you have a new car, new phone. We live in a consumer society,they must invent something new always to sell us. But first they must convince us that we must have that.And I must admit they doing  a great job.

So my friend, be yourself,be unique, do things because of you, not because of others, be free !

I am sure that You Can Do It !!!

Wind Of Change

“When the student is ready the teacher will appear.” Buddha

Legend said that in the mountains of the Himalayas was lived  the tribe of the enlightened people. They have everything they need in their village for happy life: food, water, rain,sun. They were very happy because of that.

People from all over the world has came to them in their  search for enlightenment, for happiness, for smile.

Have you noticed that people are forgot to laugh ?

They have a one little house for student,they call her “the enlightenment house”. At the top was a signpost who was associated with humans energy and pointed in the direction of change only when the student was ready. So, when the student was ready for real change, with strong faith and strong will, the wind blew, strong enough to turn around  a signpost in right direction. The wind of change.

For their teachers that was a sign that the time had come for their students for change, for happiness, for new life. For their teachers that was a sign that their student are ready.

Do you need a change !?Are you ready ???

The biggest changes are taking place in us.You can not change me, you can not change people around you, your friends, weather,but you can change your experience about reality, your perception . And with that everything around you will change too.

I will tell you the real truth. We all need changes. If you think you don’t than my friend, you are not honest  with yourself. My uncle before he died he told me “I don’t speak with a lot of people,but in all my squabbles  in my life, I was right “. This is not a thinking of enlightened manThis egoist speaks from him.
The truly enlighten people are always happy. They question their actions because they know they are just humans, and often they are wrong. But they  are not happy because they have material abundance, they are happy because they have mental wealth . They are free.

If you want to be free, you must be honest with yourself, you must be ready for change, you must be ready for new life, and with that the wind of change will blow all your shortcomings.

You Can Do It !!!

Scent Of A Woman

One of my favorite movies is “Scent Of A Woman” with Al Pacino in main role. Besides the perfect acting in the movie by Al Pacino, the most I‘m fascinated with dialogues.I especially like the part when Al Pacino respectively Lt.Col.Frank Slade  comes  to Baird School to disciplinary action .This part have a great message .

I don’t know who went to this place, William Howard Taft, William Jennings Bryan, William Tell — whoever. Their spirit is dead — if they ever had one — it’s gone. You’re building a rat ship here. A vessel for sea goin’ snitches. And if you think your preparing these minnows for manhood you better think again. Because I say you are killing the very spirit this institution proclaims it instills! What a sham. What kind of a show are you guys puttin’ on here today. I mean, the only class in this act is sittin’ next to me. And I’m here to tell ya this boy’s soul is intact. It’s non-negotiable. You know how I know? Someone here — and I’m not gonna say who — offered to buy it. Only Charlie here wasn’t sellin’.

There was a time I could see. And I have seen boys like these, younger than these, their arms torn out, their legs ripped off. But there isn’t nothin’ like the sight of an amputated spirit; there is no prosthetic for that. You think you’re merely sendin’ this splendid foot-soldier back home to Oregon with his tail between his legs, but I say you are executin’ his SOUL !!!

This is my favorite part , as I said already,because my friends, I meet a lot of people with amputated spirit.People where life is a bad master.People exhausted by life, by society, but friends, by family, by neighbors,by… . Their souls are loss,they gave up,they have no wishes,they have no passions .They’re tired of everything. As Lt.Col.Frank Slade said, for amputated spirit do not exist prosthetic. In this I do not agree with him.

There is prosthetic and it’s called Desire.  Strong desire can picked up you from the bad,heal your from the worst disease ever .Strong will is prosthesis for your soul. this is the most important thing for you,this desire must came from you.No one can help you if you don’t want help. No one can help you if you not strong enough to admit to yourself that you need help.

No matter in how condition you are, no matter how  things are complicated, believe me they are always easier than  they look. Everything you need is strong desire for change. And you will make it.


Be brave.You deserve to have a great life,to have filled soul, and don’t forget that You Can Do It !!!

Open You Eyes

Somehow we humans, we tend to close our eyes in front of  the reality.We don’t have enough courage to see some things that bother us. And this is my friends, necessary if we want  changes.


I am fat. I am unhappy. I’m unsatisfied.I have a bad temper. I am addicted to nicotine.I am addicted to alcohol.I am addicted to pills. No matter what…Just say it… Only God is perfect.

Did you know that a one cigarette has 74 elements which cause addiction.I know a lot of people who smoke and they say that cigarette  is their only passion.What a stupid excuse. They enjoy to light a cigarette with cup of coffee in the morning. They enjoy to light a cigarette after a lunch. Ironically, the most of them dreams of quit smoking. But in fact they are addicted to nicotine. They are not honest.The only true is addiction, everything else is lie.

Or, people who like to drink alcohol.They drink in every occasion, every single weekend,every Saturday, every Sunday , and at the end every day.Alcohol is bad habit. Habit at the beginning and vice after couple years.He slowly enters  into the bloodstream and he  creates a strong addictive. I know a lot of people who drink alcohol almost every day, and they say the same thing , the alcohol is our only passion.

You’re too overweight, but you think this is normal condition, because you are working hard, almost every day,you don’t have a time to eat healthy food.And you  have found the solution, you will ignore your condition. But, your subconscious know that you should lose weight, but you knowingly deny her.

Wake up. Admit. There is no point to closing your eyes in the front of the problems.They will not disappear.They will overtake you like a boomerang.I hope that will not be late.

Do not be blindfolded. Open your eyes and say it…I am……I want……I’m not …….and you will see how wonderful this world is.You will see how great life is when you are honest. This is the first step towards change.This is the first step  towards great life.

Miracles are real,there is not doubt. Everything is in our head,but you must take the first step.

You are born to be great.You are born to be free.You are born to live forever,because energy never dies.

I know that you have a great power in yourself. Great power to change the world.But if you want to change the world, start from yourself. And I am sure that You Can Do It !!!