Blacksmith Of Own Happiness

We all need to ask ourselves at a certain point in our lives this question “Destiny, Is It Real ?”.I believe that everyone of us is the Blacksmith of own happiness !

“What’s the world’s greatest lie?… It’s this: that at a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what’s happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate.”
                                                                                                             Paulo Coelho

I was three years old.I suffered from bronchitis,because of which I was very hard to breathe.I coughed a lot and  I  coughed often. On  a  routine  examination  is  revealed, that my pleura was broken,  that I need emergency surgery,because the blood from stomach  came to the heart.

My parents were scared.How did it all happen at once?That’s not possible.But they did not have a choice, they had to agree with  the operation,they had to give their consent.

During the operation, the doctor told my parents that I will not survive, I am too young, my body is to week , and they must be ready for the worst scenario. The operation lasted 7 hours.They allowed students to sew my stomach, because anyway I will not survive.They thought.

Because of that , I have a big scar on my stomach. But I am aliveIn this kind of destiny I believe.

To be a target of a terrorist attack, that  meteor drops on your head, to car hit you  at a pedestrian crossing. Bad luck. Destiny.

People are often left to fate, because they think that their some invisible forces are controlled  their lives, and they can do nothing about that.I heard that quotes ” Everything that needs to happen is going to happen”. 

I don’t believe in this. Does that mean you do not have to do anything in your life to change something. Just like on autopilot , just live like an animal or like a plant. Wait, and it will happen.No it will not.

Your life is your whole time in your hands,and your must be very proactive in your life. You must be an active participant in your life.If you want something, take it. Do your best to accomplish that.

Do your best, and forget the rest!

Because of destiny illusion, we have millions of autopilots around us. A millions of people who spend their whole  lives not even trying to change anything. I will tell you something, it is easier on this way. Just sit on your “destiny” chair, and fly on the wings of destiny.

Destiny is  what you choose.Your wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, job, profession, mood, it is your call. Not destiny call. In your way, you will find a many challenges. You will have to make many decisions. These decisions determine your destiny.

Be wise on your road, create your destiny brave. Create amazing life because you are amazing, and on your road don’t forget the biggest truth in the world You Can Do It !!!


Once in a time, I have discovered that we are, humans,we are walking universe. That we create our own destiny. After that, nothing was the same !


  1. Great thoughts my friend, backed up by science and spiritual practice. There is a saying which roughly state ‘ throw a pebble into the sea from your beach, cause a tidal wave on the other side of the world’. Cause & effect nothing is fixed, science has quantum entanglement, the uncertainty principle etc which suggest mind matter interaction. The only hitch is the sheer number and complexity of our connections and it is this that gives us the illusion of either fate/destiny or chance.
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    • Hello Nigel,

      very deep comment my friend.That is good quote, Just like our words.We are not aware in most cases, how deep impact our words have have on people around us and on us. We like to throw them around us, and to discharges our energy, but in fact we can cause “a tidal wave” on the other side.

      Thank you so much for your great comment


      • i believe in destiny, ben, and i believe that our actions today will impact us in the future. some with little consequence, others with a greater impact.
        however, this post is a thought provoking post. yes, things will happen to us that we have no control over, but the outcome and the way we react to it, that is always a choice, not fate.
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        • Hello Jina,

          sorry for my reply with delay!

          You said it well, in one hand that is my goal in each article, to provoke people, or with my title, or with my post, to think about some things, to think about their life, or about destiny, to use their brain potential on the best possible way.

          I agree with you,our actions today will impact us in the future, and our present life is the result of our actions from the past.Some things will happen to us on which we will not have an influence.But people are prone to think that their whole life is the matter of destiny, but in fact in most cases is the matter of choices, bad or good.

          Thank you for your comment !
          Stay positive


  2. I’m so into this right now… I loved reading your post! 2017 was a big year of change for me and as I put the brakes on some aspects about which I felt stuck in a rut, family members all jostled for a good viewpoint to ‘see’ why, while they nudged each other and frowned their confusion (but she’s done that for years – why would she stop now do you suppose?).
    It took guts (and a lot of help from an amazing counsellor) but steering yourself down a different, unused path and negotiating the brambles of others’ opinions is not straightforward. But let me tell you – the view at the end of the this path is already resulting in me feeling more fulfilled. How cool is that???


    • Hello Viola,

      that is definitely less traveled road . It is not easy to be alone in that road. It is not easy to have a different opinion when everyone has their own,it’s not easy to be different. It is not easy to say NO to your family, to say “This is my road“.
      But as you said “How cool is that”, when you are at the end of that road, when you see the light at the end of the tunnel.

      I will dare to say that the feeling is divine. This is a characteristic of brave people, and you are definitely on of them .

      Stay brave, stay on your road.

      Thank you so much for your great comment 🙂


  3. Hello Ben,
    I so much agree with your words. I believe that we can do whatever we really want. Our thoughts can lead us to our destiny. I am so glad that someone like you reminds that in your posts!! <3
    Happy upcoming Christmas, Ben!


    • Hello Vero,

      I am glad that you like my post.I Yes we can, because everything is in our head.
      Sometimes we need to realize how powerful we are.I believe that some people are biggest obstacle on their path.
      And I am so glad that someone like read my post and comment 🙂

      Thank you for your wishes and say hello to my little buddy Canito. Learn him that he is a real Superman !


      • Hello Ben!
        Ah yes… I believe in that as well. Many people make obstacles even if there is nothing in front of them.
        My little monkey is saying hello too and yes! I am going to teach him that. Thank you so much for your words, Ben


        • Hi Vero,

          that is very important to learn him. Of course, after you teach him to cook 🙂
          Then, you must learn him to take his life in own hands. To think with own head. You will be his mother, always, and he will not be able to change that.Never. But everything else he could change. Let him take the hammer of fate into his own hands and let him create his own happiness.

          Teach him that Vero.

          Thank you for your comment 🙂

          Stay blessed


    • Hello Subbashini,

      that is so kind of you.That means that you have an open mind, because without that you can not receive any new knowledge, any new energy.

      Thank you so much for your comment


    • Hello Ngobesing,

      I am glad you like. Yes we are, and our life is our whole time on Earth in our hands !

      Thank you for your comment

      Stay blessed


  4. you have the very right understanding for destiny, and you just posted it in a clear bright way dear Ben.

    very happy to know a smart person like you.


    • Hello my friend,

      I hope you are great as your comments.
      I am glad you like my post and I’m glad you share my view.

      I am happy to have such a great friend like you.

      Stay the same, just wonderful and great !


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